Thursday, February 2, 2012
Relationship
The person I have become closest to is my old roommate. We first met at a party in 2007 and we got along right away. We both were looking for a house to stay at and when I got kicked out of my place, she let me crash at hers until we found a better housing situation. I barely knew her and we shared a room together for a month and it was no problem. It was neither an I-It or I-You relationship, it was an I- Thou relationship because we acknowledged each other as unique and accepted each other as who we are, rather then just meeting someone at a party and creating small talk. Our current relationship has stayed pretty much the same, only now we know how to communicate better so we can avoid unnecessary drama and arguments. She often has to have things explained to her and if she doesn't get it, she gets mad easily and thinks you are trying to cause harm, but once you explain and she gets it, there are usually no problems at all. The one thing I love is that we can scream and argue at each other one moment, say sorry and then laugh again 5 minutes later. There aren't a lot of people out there like that.
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Hey Meow Mix,
ReplyDeleteSounds like you two have a great friendship! One of those friendships where both people are comfortable enough to act goofy and be crazy around without worrying about how others may judge them. It is awesome that you two hit it off right from the start because I think that's really hard to find. Most people, myself included, tend to be guarded and private when first meeting others. Most people also don't like to disclose personal information, let alone let someone crash at their place without knowing them well. It’s really amazing that you two click so well, even after living with each other for a while. I remember I shared an apartment with one of my close friends I met the year before, but it turned out to be a horrible idea. We got on each others’ nerves and bumped heads a lot. Fortunately, we decided it’s best that we do not continue living with one another and continue to remain really great friends.
I agree that the quick to anger yet quick to forget is a rare quality in relationships. More often is the slow-brewing, resentful model - where people allow annoyances of the other person to fester, making for a complex mess of emotions once it finally hits the surface. The fact that you both accepted each other as-is, without judgment I’m sure has a lot to do with why you both feel comfortable being visibly angry. Most of the people in my life that I consider friends I would not feel comfortable letting any negative emotion show. Perhaps that means they aren’t really my friends?!
ReplyDeleteIt is very true to see that people can become angry or frustrated when they don't understand something. Sometimes even when we do try to explain it to someone they still sometimes won't understand. From my personal experience this is because they just don't understand it all together even after trying to explain something as well as I can, or they are just too hot-headed at the moment to be logical and/or understanding about the situation. I agree with you that there really aren't too many people in the world that can be reasonable and understanding. It seems that only when we have a very close relationship with someone issues can be redirected into a better situation.
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