Wednesday, March 7, 2012
Fallacies
The book mentions social expectations as a fallacy and that women aren't supposed to express emotions of anger, but I have no problem letting someone know when I'm mad and upset. I have a bigger problem letting someone know when I'm hurt. I don't like when people see me as vulnerable, because I'm always usually really strong and that is what I want other people to see. I'm learning though that it's okay to share all kinds of emotion because it makes everyone understand you better as a person and it feels better to let everything out in the open rather than bottling it up inside. I guess another fallacy that shows up in my interpersonal communication is 'protecting other'. I don't always like saying how I feel because I take the other person's feelings into consideration first and before my own. I know I should take both our feelings into consideration so that I can effectively express my emotions to them. It's just a matter of how I express it.
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Hi Meow Mix,
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading your post. You say you do not like people seeing as vulnerable. So under the fallacies that are discussed in the book you have a fallacy of helplessness because you don't want to be seen as week or vulnerable but strong and independent. But it good that you learned from your fallacy to be more open instead of guarding you self back from emotion. I don't think there is anything wrong if showing emotion because I think emotion makes more humane and is a central piece of the relationship bubble. Without emotion we would not be able to establish connections.
-Sir Keithington
Your post is almost the exact thing of my life right now, except the part showing whether I'm mad or not since I'm not a girl. I have been living by placing other's before me so I tend to do favors for others before I do what I can do. My emotions can get the better of me but mostly I just keep it hidden since most of the times, my emotions are dark and negative. I don't want my friends to notice my emotions since it will worry them and then they'll place me before themselves and its not right how I see that. Anyways, I'm glad to see that you want to show yourself as a strong person and not a nobody. People these days needs to do that so they can stand up for themselves and survive.
ReplyDeleteI agree that much of society thinks that women should not really express their emotions, especially if they are angry or upset because it makes them feel vulnerable. A lot of my girlfriends have also told me to "never let 'em see you sweat" when I'm angry or upset. However, it is unhealthy to bottle everything up inside. I also have this issue of the "protecting other" fallacy in my intrapersonal communication. I always have a hard time expressing my anger or disappointment with someone because I hate confrontation and also do not want to hurt them or make things awkward. I learned that if I don't express how I feel, they will never know and will continue to act the same way. In addition, I will just end up getting even more frustrated and upset that sometimes the problem blows up more than it would have if I let them know from the beginning something was bothering me. I am also trying to work on considering both sides so that I can be more open with others when I need to be.
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