One Concept

The concept I want to discuss is relational dialects, because this actually came up in a conversation I was having with my friend a couple days ago, and why being in a relationship sucks at times because there isn't enough comfort with these opposing forces, or tensions which are normal in relationships. There are three different dialects. One is autonomy/connection, which is the desire to want to spend time with one another and also wanting your own space. The other one is novelty/predictability, which is the want for rhythms and routines of our relationship, and then the need to do something new and different. Then at last is openness/closedness, which is wanting to share stuff with someone and then there are things that you don't want to share with them. Everyone experiences these wants and needs, but not everyone understands them. For example the first one, we want to spend time with someone we care about but you can't spend all your time with them, because you have other interests, but the other person might not understand and think that you don't want to spend time with them because there is something wrong with them. I think it's important to understand these relational dialects because that way you can avoid a lot of unnecessary conflict.